Letters to the Men that I Love

Many have questioned why I have no bitterness towards men, in spite of the damage that has been done to me by a man. The answer to this question is that I have too many examples of good men around me, to let one bad one change my perception of all men.  This blog is dedicated to the men in my life who make me want to continue to believe and to love:  My father, Thomas Tucker; my children’s father, Machon Sims; my brother, Anthony Tucker, and so many other good men…you know who you are.

To my father:

Dad,

I Love you for being so humble and gentle, and for allowing me to be free to make my own decisions. You have been there for me when I needed you the most, and your presence in my life these past few challenging years has made all the difference in the world to me. You are so young spirited, and as I have grown into a woman, our relationship has become a friendship that I truly enjoy. You are so funny and cool, and so easy to be around.  Dad, thank you for being by my bedside last year, I couldn’t speak or see you, but I knew you were there. I heard you crying, and I felt your presence. I felt so loved by you while in that coma and I am so glad that God allowed me to live so that I can be an even better daughter to you.  I know how heartbroken you are over what happened to me, your baby girl, but I will be okay because God is with me, and He is with you.  I hope that you are proud of me, because I am so proud to be your daughter.

To the father of my children:

Machon,

Thank you for being such an incredible man, I felt you holding my hand every day while in that coma, and I heard you praying, and keeping me posted on the kids. You have always been not just a great provider for our children, but you have been present, active, and involved in every aspect of their lives.  You are balanced in the way that you father our children, and I love the examples that you are setting for them every day. We have owned homes together, run businesses together, raised children together, and buried an angel together. You continuing to be a great father to our children after six years of divorce was not a surprise to me because I would expect nothing less from you.  But, you being such a good friend to me and continuing to go over and beyond what any man would be expected to do for his ex-wife, is awe inspiring.  I am overwhelmed at times at what a good man you are. This past year has been the most challenging year of my life, and there is no way that I would have survived it without you.  Knowing that you were caring for and nurturing our children has allowed me to have peace and heal.  Marrying you and raising children with you was the most important thing that I have done in my life, and I am so grateful.  Thank you for being my friend, my daddy at times, my counselor, and most importantly…thank you for being such an amazing father to our children.  I want you to be happy, to be free, and to find love again.  You are my family and you always will be…I love you and I appreciate you.  Thank you so much for loving me all these years…

To my big brother,

Quinn,

You have been loving me and protecting me my entire life. You are gracious, loving, and extremely kind. Big brother, I have been walking four steps behind you my entire life and I was so proud to follow in your footsteps.  I love you for standing in the gap for dad when needed, and being a brother and a father to me.  I love you because you are hardworking and driven to succeed.  I love you for being courageous and resilient in spite of the odds that were against us.  I love you for showing me the way out of our environment; education saved us both. I love you for being just as vulnerable as you are strong.  I love you for the respect that you show our mother, you are an amazing son.  I love you for being that person that I can always count on, you have never let me down.  I love you because you are passionate about your children, I get joy from watching you with them.  You are the best big brother in the entire world, I could not have asked for better.  Thank you for being here for me during the most horrific time in my life, you have been my rock and my best friend.  I love you so much, Quinn, and I am so proud to call you my brother.

A Special thanks to the other good men that I know:

Thank you all for helping my heart to mend by showing me daily examples of what a man and a father should be.  Because of my wonderful male friends, I have decided to allow my tragedy to make me better and not bitter.  Your words of encouragement, donations, and the lending of your resources has made me feel loved and safe during the most horrific time of my life.  I love you all for being such good friends to me, and for being such great men.

A special thanks to: Charles Sperling, Odis Williams, Joseph David Smith, Stanley Nelson, Dr. Benjamin Stong, Dr. Robert Spence, CP, Monroe, Warren Mitchell, Jejuan Hall, Bustrum Perterson, Walter Jordan, Ralph Long III, Trevor Roseberry, Dexter Rhymes, Robert Rhymes, Jasper Cain, Keith Gulley, Marc Michael, Clint Browning, Marques Neal, Corey Allen, Niqua Jones, Ronald Sims, Marlon Nichols, Allan Rock,  Dante Charles, Frank Thornton, Homer McEwen, Kevin Ware, Maceo Heard Jr., and several others.  I have not spoken to most of you, but I know you are there, supporting me through your efforts and donations.  All of you make me proud to know you because you are great fathers to your children.  You let me know that it is still safe to be a woman in this world because you have shown me so much love and concern.

Happy Father’s Day, with all my love,

Christy